Happy Ever After!

 My brother got married, and I planned to write something awesome to speak at his wedding, but like always I get so nervous and have no idea what to say, so I turned to God and books about relationships.

I have learned so much about marriage, that when I get married I know I have all the tools to have a great Godly marriage, knowing also that I've been warned that Disney has no idea what marriage really looks like.

So I've read a few books about marriage, lots of articles and found quiet a few verses on marriage, love and relationships in general. Of course it all comes back to the relationship between the two people and Jesus. He is the center of it all, He is love!

I learned that in a relationship no matter what kind, either friendship, family or romantic, if Jesus isn't part of it, it will eventually collapse.Why? Because we all carry baggage that only He can take away, because we all sin against each other and against Him, but only He has loved enough to forgive and show us that we must forgive. And that is one thing that I learned that all these books and articles have in common: Forgiveness! -

25 If a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand.

- Mark 3:25

Without forgiveness, a house becomes divided. In this verse Jesus is talking about the fact that the religious people where saying that Jesus had an evil spirit and that's how he could cast out demons.... Right! Jesus responded with all his wisdom, a house divided against itself cannot stand. If Satan works against himself he cannot stand. Same principle works also in the church, in the families, and in all relationships. A house divided cannot stand. A family divided, stops being a family, you may be blood related, but you are no longer a family.  Not being able to forgive divides us. Why? Because we hold grudges, we hurt, we get angry, we create walls, we separate ourselves from each other and eventually we fall.

I wanted to dedicate this post to my brother and his wife. I would like to encourage them to no matter what they do, whatever they sin against each other, if Jesus was able to forgive us from all that we have sinned against Him, who are we to not be able to forgive each other. Always forgive in time. Always talk it out, and forgive daily if it still hurts. Choose to love.

13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. 

- 1 Corinthians 13:13

The Greatest gift of all is Love. God's Love. Unconditional, all forgiving Love. And I encourage you today to love the way God loves his Church, His bride.

So lets all take a moment today, and think of all the things that people have done to you that have hurt you. Think about them in prayer. Now think about all the things you have done or said to people around you that might have hurt them. You see now, you deserve as little forgiving as you claim those who have hurt you deserve. Now think about how gracious Jesus has been to you. He went to a cross, he died the most shameful death anyone could have thought of in those times. Think of His great love for you. And now take a stand like He did. Forgive those who have hurt you. We were separated from God because of our sin, we were reunited with God because of His forgiving love. Now I encourage you to do the same.

Love can conquer all. His love conquered death! His love can give you a happy ever after.

I love my brother a lot!! And I know the girl he has chosen to be with is a very blessed girl, just like my brother is also a very blessed guy. And I know that if they keep living for Jesus and working and striving to be closer to Him each day they can be an example of how Marriage through God always works. Love is a choice, forgiving is also a choice. God chose to love us, let us choose to be like Him!

Be blessed and be a blessing to those around you!